Many of us are walking around carrying a heavy load of disappointment in ourselves for certain choices that we’ve made in life. And unfortunately, this can weigh us down and holds us back unless and until we make the decision to empower ourselves!
The story goes like this…when I was a teen, I was super-strong-willed and rebellious and my mother couldn’t control me. So when I was 14, she gave up and gave me the freedom to come and go as I pleased, and to make my own decisions. So needless to say, I made a lot of mistakes in my life and I used to feel defeated by them, but after while I learned how to empower myself.
So here’s what I did. Instead of wallowing in the horrible feeling of, “I just made another bad decision,” I started to examine why I was making certain choices, which helped me to better understand myself. I then changed how I looked at mistakes. Instead of getting upset with myself, I began to look for the lessons in my mistakes and use them to make better decisions in the future. I then learned to slow down and seek God for clarity and direction before I made a move, and that was the beginning of self-empowerment!
When you find yourself feeling defeated by your own life decisions, ask yourself,
a) What choices lead to this feeling that I have?
b) Why did I make those choices, what were the circumstances? Was I emotional, did I think it through thoroughly, was I trying to avoid something else, was I being unrealistic, was I ignoring my gut instinct, etc
c) What have I learned about myself from the choices I’ve made?
e) What will I have to change about myself or my habits that will allow me to make better choices in the future?
Do this exercise in order to learn and grow, and remember that mistakes are a part of life and they’re only really mistakes until we turn them into lessons that we can use to make better choices in the future!
You always have a choice. And how you allow your decisions to affect you, is another choice. Choose to empower yourself! –love, sj