He was brilliant and beautiful, a spiritually gifted being; at first, that’s all I could see. Over time, she showed her shadows, the broken wings she didn’t intend for me to see. You know, that undeveloped, broken part of him/her/we that usually remains hidden in the beginning.
But eventually, time reveals all things. Be it your mother or brother whom you once looked at with eyes that could find no fault in them, or friends and lovers along the way; time reveals all shadows lurking in the dark corners of the human soul.
And sometimes, we don’t need time, it’s evident right away.
In the moment…when the shadows are revealed…you have a decision to make. A decision that will contribute to your own personal fate. Do I continue to love, or do I allow judgement and hate to pervade me? And if I allow judgement, how is that helping?
I prayed about it. Countless times, over countless years regarding countless disappointments that I faced in the face of the many beautiful souls I met along the way. Wanting them to be only the beauty that I saw in them, rejecting their broken wings. Wanting them to measure up to MY expectations of them, ignoring the song their soul sings.
All of this wanting lead to my suffering.
God, how do I handle my feelings? How do I keep from critiquing, assessing and judging? It seems that these thoughts are now keeping me from loving.
“It’s simple,” God said, “repeat this decree…
“I am completely unattached to and unaffected by how others choose to live their lives. I am simply a vessel through which unconditional love flows.”
Wow. Instantly the heavy weight that came with shifting my focus from the beauty to the brokenness was lifted when I remembered that my only responsibility in life is to be a vessel through which unconditional love flows. I remembered that if I am to remain at peace, then I have to remain emotionally unattached to my expectations of how I think people should be…including myself…first and foremost, myself.
I remembered that it’s impossible to give to others that which I have yet to give to myself…unconditional love. I can only love others in the manner and to the degree in which I love myself. It was only once I could love and accept myself completely, wholeheartedly, unconditionally, with flaws and all, that I could offer others the same.
Wanting, wanting, wanting…leads to suffering. Loving, loving, loving…leads to healing.
Response – Ability…the ability to respond…and the manner in which we do this is what makes all the difference. I now only respond to myself and to others with unconditional love. And in doing this, everything works out in the manner in which God has designed. I am simply a vessel through which unconditional love flows.
Peace, love and light,
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