The Time it Takes to Heal

window rail2A while ago, I was in a relationship that was wonderful in the beginning, but ended up turning into a nightmare!  I must admit, I learned a lot from the experience, but it did some damage to my heart and my ability to trust and I just didn’t give myself the time it takes to heal before moving on to the next one.

This is what happened, when I decided to end the relationship, I almost immediately got involved with someone else.  While it helped me keep my mind off the other guy, it was bad in that I still had open wounds that hadn’t healed.  So after I saw where the new relationship was going (because we both had issues) I decided to take a break from dating altogether – and it was the best decision that I could have made!  And so for the past 5 or so months I’ve been happily single, happily focusing on me and my dreams and I can feel myself growing and maturing in so many exciting ways!  I’m telling you, once I get over this last little lingering bag, I’m going to be soooo ready to meet my twin flame and live out that aspect of my beautiful life!  whooo hooo!

Listen, when people say take some time to yourself to heal before you get into another relationship, they know what they’re talking about!  Sometimes you just don’t know how much emotional damage a bad relationship does to you, so I guess that was what I learned from it all.  When you don’t give yourself time and space to process everything, to learn from it and heal, you can end up bringing your own unhealthy emotional baggage into the new relationship and the cycle just repeats itself…and there will be no inner peace, no inner joy and no inner fulfillment, which was the problem from the beginning.

If you are expecting a relationship to make you happy, peaceful and whole, you are not ready for a relationship.  You can’t expect a relationship to fill you with love, peace and happiness!  You have to fill that space yourself BEFORE you get into a relationship if you want it to be beautiful!  If you want a healthy, loving and successful relationship, do yourself a favor and first learn how to have a healthy, loving and successful relationship with yourself!  You can do that in the time it takes to heal.  -love and light, sj


  2 comments for “The Time it Takes to Heal

  1. elle
    June 4, 2012 at 9:36 am

    You can’t love somebody else, until you love yourself. So true! If the universe is based on the law of attraction you want to be the very best that you can be, so that you are loved for the awesome person that you are. Our self love is reflected in the people we attract. Love your blog Selena.

    • Selena J
      June 4, 2012 at 5:32 pm

      Absolutely Elle! Thanks for the love and thanks for commenting!!

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